Hey There! Welcome to the 20’s! 2020, that is!

FRIENDS! First, hi, how are you?! Thanks for stopping by my little space on the interwebs today. Can you BELIEVE we are in a new decade, let alone a new year?! I’m still trying to wrap my head around it.

I, for one, am so excited about a new decade. This last one taught me so much. It saw me through major wins like graduating from undergrad and grad school, starting what I thought was my dream job, and finding myself making a big career shift and city move at 28. It saw me through celebrating my friends as they embarked on marriages and babies and loss and grief as I said goodbye to toxic relationships. It saw me through moments of joy, moments of sadness, and so much GROWTH.

I will say I am ready for a new decade of me and at my age (31) people put so much pressure on themselves that they should be married, have kids, be homeowners. I’m not anywhere near that and this last decade really challenged me to think about what I want. I really don’t play the comparison game, but it’s hard to see so much happening for others and not think, well, what’s wrong with me that I don’t have these things?

You know what I do have though? Community. I’ve made my own little community here at That Blonde Rebel. And stability. Since starting my new career 2.5 years ago in Corporate America, I’ve been promoted twice and am proud of the work I’ve done. I do think I have worked my tail off, both at work and at the blog, and it sometimes feels like I can’t catch my breath.

On that note, I have picked my word for 2020.

F O C U S.

I want to focus this year on continuing to grow both at work and at the blog, getting back on my wellness train, and growing my finances.

I talked about this last year, but I don’t think setting resolutions is good for our psyche. There’s all this pressure we put on ourselves and the feeling of disappointment is overwhelming when we don’t accomplish or meet those resolutions. Instead, I call my goals INTENTIONS instead. These are things I want to do, I intend to do. So here they are, in no particular order:

I want to quit doubting myself.

I want to learn how to integrate work and life better.

I want to try to dance more. For fun. I MISS IT!

I want to have more dollars in the bank! My goal is to save three months worth of salary this year. Emma, from Emma’s Edition, broke it down. You add up three months of salary and divide by 12. That number equals the dollars you need to save each month to get there.

I want to start restyling my clothing items for y’all. This will also help with the above so I’m not just cycling through clothes for the sake of showing NEW NEW NEW. It’s too much. I hope y’all will appreciate how I show how something can be worn a couple times.

I want to continue to be a source of humor, clothing/color inspiration, advice giver, and friend to all of you!

I’m going to stop eating out so much. I am so guilty of stopping for fast food on the way home from work. I need to start putting easy options in my kitchen for quick dinners. Do y’all have any great recipes I should try?

I want to be more joyful and easy-going in 2020. Believe it or not, I’m a pretty structured person who needs to have all her ducks in a row. While that is great and I can’t really change my DNA, I’d like to be more in the moment.

Here’s to these intentions and my F O C U S in 2020!

I’m looking forward to all that is to come this year and in the coming decade.

Cheers!

Xx

Intention Check In

Well, friends, it’s the last day of the first month of the new year! We set those intentions for the new year and it’s time to check in… how are we doing?

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Below are the four intentions I set for 2019 and an update on each.

1. Pitch myself with purpose – This has actually had a good start! I’ve got some fun partnerships coming up that I’m super excited to share with y’all. I’ve put myself out there, dove into my blogger stats, and have been more strategic in determining my goals and working for what I want to build into That Blonde Rebel.  Can’t wait to see what February brings!

2. Save more, spend less – I’ve been better about saying no. No, you don’t need that really fantastic Hermes bracelet. You already have one. Put the money aside. Also, you will definitely be having FOMO of your friends going to Mexico in a few months for your college bestie’s bachelorette, but you’re being realistic and your savings account is going to thank you in the long run. Last week, I cooked dinner for myself three times during the work week. That is progress. This week? Not so much, so a bit of a regression, but will be resetting once I get to the grocery store and can start cooking again! Anyone have any easy meals to make for one? Let me know! Also, thinking about challenging myself with a clothes shopping freeze for the month of February! Anyone with me?! Can we be accountability buddies because I know it’ll be hard.

3. Be more focused on self-care – My anxiety is still at an all-time high, wreaking havoc on my body and my skin. I need more water. I need to move more. Ugh. Let’s be better to ourselves this next month. CBD oil is trending and I’m thinking of giving it a shot, or at least in topical form to help with my back pain. Hoping to report happier things in four weeks!

4. Be open to possibilities – Well. I’ve gone on a date. I’m still swiping. Nothing left to report on this front lol

Reflecting on these four intentions was awesome to do. I’ve clearly been very honest with myself and two things seem to be going fairly well. Now it’s about being consistent with goals 1 & 2, and putting more into 3 &4!

Am thinking this will be a monthly update going forward through the rest of the year.

Xx