With it being the week of Valentines AND Galentine’s, I think it’s time we talk about the F word. Yea, that’s right. Friendship.
Now that I’m 30, my friendships have changed. Some have ended, some are stronger than ever, and some are new and still growing. The season that we’re in doesn’t allow for lounging with the girls very often. We have to plan (often way in advance). We’re busy, we’re working away, and we’re blooming into the adults our parents hoped we’d be. AND WE ARE TIRED (no one tells you how tired you’re going to be).
I went to lunch with three of my gal pals on Sunday and it got me thinking. As the days of our lives go off in various directions, how do we stay connected? Invested? One of us is about to have a baby, another is engaged, and the third bought the cutest fixer upper. Yet here we are, catching up over wine (and a mocktail for mama) and laughing about jury duty horror stories and talking through what the next few months look like.
Here’s just a few tips for staying connected with your bests at this stage of life:
- Give yourselves something to look forward to! Is it a girls getaway? Maybe a spa day. Okay, let’s settle on brunch. A study just recently came out that said women with a friend group that spend time together IRL live longer.
- Snail mail. I think letter writing is becoming a dying art. My friends and family know that I LOVE TO SEND MAIL. I have a drawer full of cards for whatever the next occasion is going to be. Let your friends (both near and far) know you’re thinking of them.
- Call me, beep me, if you wanna reach me. We’re so quick to send a text, comment on the latest Insta (yes, keep doing those things), but when was the last time you called your best friend to check in? FaceTimed? Hearing someone’s voice or seeing their face gives another layer to your communication, your connection. You can hear the tone in someone’s voice, see the expression of laughter on someone’s face. It’s a beautiful thing. Pick up the phone!
Above all else, find ways to support one another, even when you’re in bed by 9 with a facemask on.
And for that next meet up with your besties? I’ve got the PERFECT look!
Cheers to you and your gal pal group, y’all!
Thanks to Lane Bryant for this great top and pair of jeans! Y’all know how to make a girl feel great!