The Power of Words

Hey y’all! And Happy Friday!

Although I have a fun look to share with y’all today, I also wanted to talk about something important: the power of words.

Has someone ever given you a compliment and instead of just flashing a big smile and saying, “Thanks”, you instead make a self-deprecating comment? WELL, STOP IT.

We live in a society that profits from our self doubt, so liking yourself seems like a rebellious act. It isn’t. You should like yourself. It’s you you go to sleep with every night, and it’s you you wake up with every morning. Sure we all have flaws, and wish we could lose those pesky 10 (okay, 20) pounds, or fix that double chin, or worry that one eye is smaller than the other — these might just be the things I focus on, but you know what’s worse than criticizing your own features? Not also praising the specific characteristics that you make you YOU — like an insane maniacal laugh when something is so funny you can’t breathe, or your good heart of always looking for the best in people, or your collarbone because you can rock an off the shoulder top like no other. Again, that might just be me.

The way you speak to yourself matters. Remember that. Try something new for me: for every negative thought you have about yourself, identify two strengths of who you are, whether they are physical, spiritual, or mental. Celebrate you and get that mean-spirited voice in your head to simmer down.

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Shop my look: Dress (curvy here, regular here), Boots (similar here), Purse (here), Earrings (sold out, similar here), Bracelets (here, here, and here), Rings (similar here)

You have to find that place that brings out the human in you, the soul in you, the love in you.

Be good to you, y’all. Xoxo, Liza

 

Chartreuse in the Cold

Happy Wednesday, y’all!

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It has been so CHILLY here in Houston that sweaters have been the norm (and the necessary)!

I recently got this chartreuse cashmere sweater and it’s a bright look on a dreary day!

I’ve been seeing a lot of resolutions all over the blogosphere and I have to say that I love this environment of women setting their goals and getting others to hold them accountable/cheer them on. In my previous post, I talked about the five things I’d like to quit doing in the new year, but I didn’t tell you what I want to accomplish.

I want to find peace and happiness in myself and seek out those characteristics in others. I want to create for me, for you, my readers, and impart my life and my learning with you and hopefully inspire you to take risks, live your best life, and reach for the things that bring you joy. I want to spend valuable time with family and friends and lift them up as they have lifted me.

Here’s to seeking out the best this world can offer us.

Shop this look at the bottom of the post.

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Shop: Sweater (here), Earrings (here), Sunnies (here), Jeans (here), Shoes (here), Purse (here)

Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring your flowers.

Xoxo, Liza Mae

Onward and Upward

Well, 2017, we’re almost done with you (insert waving hand emoji)!

I am so ready for the newness of 2018 and to make being a better me a priority. I’ve already been soda-free since November 28th (A WHOLE MONTH, y’all), and even though I still crave the bubbles in a cold can of Coke, I’m seeing changes in clearer skin, whiter teeth, and better sleep. I hope to continue this well into the new year.

What are your 2018 goals? Want to be a better you? Here are just a few things to think about giving up:

1. Trying to please everyone – This will never happen. There will always been someone who isn’t your biggest fan and THAT IS OKAY. Do yourself a favor and invest time and energy into those that are gaga over you. Your relationships will improve and you will find more happiness within yourself, too.

2. Fearing change – This is critical. Being flexible is so important for good mental health. Change will always come, whether you plan for it or not. Being able to roll with it creates character and helps you not sweat the small stuff.

3. Living in the past – This is so important. Most people are either damaged from their past, or remember it way better than it really was. Where’s the happy medium? Our pasts will always be a part of who we are, just like our dna, but it does not define us. Be present in your life now, appreciate where you are, because these moments may not come around again.

4. Putting yourself down – This is easier said than done. We are our harshest critics, aren’t we? Especially in this day and age, where it’s so easy to hop on social media and start that compare game. That never ends well, does it? Prioritize living your best life and seeking out all that is right for you.

5. Overthinking – This is imperative. I am so guilty of this. I could sit quietly in my head for hours, couldn’t you? I replay scenarios in my head or potential upcoming events and thinking about what I will say and how I am going to act. Get out of your heads people.

I hope I’ve given you something to think about heading into 2018. I know I’ll be revisiting this post when I need a pep talk. Cheers to a healthy and happy, new beginning and a year of peace, joy, and laughter.

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Dress (curvy here and regular here), Purse (here), Sunnies (here), Shoes (here), Earrings (here), Ring (here)

And this is what I am going to leave you with the new year approaching: There is no statue of limitations on starting over. Re-invent yourself every day. Be the girl who walks barefoot and listens to the blues. Tomorrow, wear a trench coat and speak fierce truths. Be a phoenix. Be ashes. Burn down. Resurrect. Let go of the idea that you must always be who you have always been.

Thanks for following and supporting and reading and shopping this little blog. It’s been a great outlet for my creativity. I can’t wait to continue to create and cultivate ThatBlondeRebel.

Xoxo, Liza

My Mother’s Daughter

My Mother’s Daughter

Goldie and Kate. Meryl and Mamie. Peggy and Rashida. Judy and Liza. Diana and Tracee. Angela and Margherita. Reese and Ava.

What do all these fabulous women have in common?

They are mother-daughter duos. And I am lucky enough to be a part of one.

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My mom loves fashion, has a heart of gold, and thinks I’m tremendously funny. Being the baby of the family, I got quite a bit of mommy and me time growing up. Of course, we went through that typical difficult teenager stuff. Obvs we are both alive to tell the tales.

One thing we have always had in common is our love for fashion.

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My outfit: Sunnies (here), Top (here similar here and here), Jeans (here), Bag (here), Shoes (here), Earrings (here), Bracelets (here and here)

Frickspicks started her blogging journey several years ago and I was happy to partake by being her Instagram Husband. I got to boss my mom around and she’d buy me WhataB for my time. WIN-WIN. On a more serious, but happy note, she has continued to thrive and I think one thing that inspires me on my own blogging adventure is her authenticity. She keeps it real and I admire that immensely.

Being a mother-daughter duo makes us each other’s harshest critic, but also each other’s biggest fan. She tells me when I look great and when I should change something (or when I have lipstick on my teeth, which happens quite often tbh) and I do the same for her. Our opinions don’t always align, but that doesn’t bother us. The number one thing I love about our relationship is the encouragement. I am always encouraging her to live her best life, take a risk, wear the heels. And whether it’s about my professional life or personal life, she is my #1 fan. I would not have started this blog without her words of support. I will always be grateful to her for a million+ things, but I am extremely grateful that we get to do something so fun together.

Fashion is definitely our fun space and the amount of fun we have may change as I move to Houston on Friday. But I also think it will make us appreciate the time we do get together. Here’s to new photoshoot locations, finding the best bellini in Houston, and making more memz!

To sum it up, the older I get, the more I realize my mom is the best best friend I could ever ask for and I am so, so lucky.

Xoxo, Liza Mae

p.s. Mom – if you’re reading this… thank you for all the years of advice I should have listened to!

 

 

5 Things I have Learned as I Enter the Last Year of my 20’s

5 Things I have Learned as I Enter the Last Year of my 20’s

Well, today I am the big 2-9! And as I enter the last year of my twenties, I have to say I have learned quite a bit about life and loss and family and friends and everything in between. That being said, I am looking forward to all the newness 29 will bring. Here are five takeaways* my twenties has taught me!

*This list could change seeing as how I have one more year left in the 20’s, but you get the idea

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Dress (similar here and here), Sunnies (here), Earrings (here), Shoes (here)

1. Quality vs. Quantity: When I was in my early twenties, consumerism was at an all-time high. Instant gratification. What is it people say about millennials? We want what we want and we want it now? There was minimal responsibility and an emphasis on maximum fun. It was about quantity. How much stuff can I get? How many friends do I have? Is my image portraying what I want people to see? But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that quantity is fleeting and quality is long-lasting. Whether it’s friendships or a purse, quality should be what gets you to buy-in. I mean, of course you have that beach bag that you don’t mind ruining in the sand, but a YSL clutch for a nice dinner? Save your pennies for the good stuff. Appreciate that good stuff that you worked hard for.

And yes, you have those good-time gals, the ones that are your go-to for a fun night out. But when stuff hits the fan, and believe me, stuff will hit the fan, who gets in the nitty gritty with you to pull you out, who takes the good with the bad and the not-so-pretty? I’ve got a couple of besties who fit both of those bills and I consider myself extremely lucky. Holding onto stuff (toxic relationships, worn shoes with no soles (and no soul, get it?), a hardened nail polish from 2007) only holds you back. Choose carefully and wisely who and what you choose to surround yourself with.

Remember, Elizabeth Taylor said, “It’s not the having – it’s the getting.”

2. Loss is Inevitable, but Never Lose Hope: We lose a lot in life: friends, jobs, relationships, football games (I see you, Ole Miss). People we love dearly pass away. There is a grieving process for it all. There’s a shock to your system when you lose someone or something. Sometimes the loss doesn’t even feel real. This may sound overplayed, but life goes by quickly and sometimes you wake up and just pick up the pieces and move on, but a piece of you is stuck in your grief, in your sadness, and you feel like you’ll never move forward wholly. Never lose your sense of hope. Hope for better, hope for healing, for mending. If you don’t follow @theloveletterlibrary on Insta, go follow them now. Shoutout to my friend Anna for sharing their Gram with me. They posted such a beautiful post about hope and I couldn’t say it any better, so I’ll leave this section with this:

Even in what seems like the darkest of times, hope has a tendency to spark even the tiniest glimmer of light. It holds on to your heart and refuses to let go. It demands to not only be seen but to be felt. Hope teaches us that there are lessons in all we walk through. Hope reminds us that there are things to be thankful for at every turn. Hope holds us together long enough for our minds to catch up to our hearts. Here’s to finding the hope in all things.

3. Family is Everything: This one is pretty self-explanatory, but it’s important to mention, nonetheless. We love family, whether that family is by birth or by friendship (because friends can easily become family), but we are also hard on family. We hold them to the highest standard. But you laugh until your stomach hurts, and smile until your cheeks ache until feelings get hurt and dishes get put in the dishwasher the wrong way. The biggest takeaway from this is that you never know what Time has planned up his tricky sleeve. Say “I love you”, check in, be present. Don’t worry about those damn dishes. Forgive quickly. Hug each other. You may think that the people closest to you may know how you feel, but they might not. Do all the things you want to with the people you love and say all the things that need to be said. Hold people accountable, but don’t tear them down. Build each other up. It’s the best thing for a family. Communicate. Love one another.

And here’s a tip for some fun: have a family dance off or a lip sync battle. Endless entertainment and laughs. Guaranteed.

4. Grit: One of the greatest things my parents have bestowed upon me is a solid work ethic and the determination to not give up on myself. Things will pop up that have the potential to break you, but it’s that perseverance, that grit, that will see you through it. I felt like I took punch after punch this year, both professionally and personally, and once I felt like I got my feet back on solid ground another wave would crash down on me. So many times I felt like throwing in the towel, that I wouldn’t be able to make it another day. And you know what, it might have been awful, I might have looked and felt awful, but I showed up. Day after day to try to give others the best of me. I’ve come out on the other end of the madness of the past six months, and I am still standing. Maybe stronger now. Maybe not. But I’m here and I’m going to keep going.

5. Self-Care is Essential: And last, we all have the ability to burn out and burn out quickly if our tanks are depleted. Do yourself a favor and do at least one good thing for yourself a day. Take a walk, make a to-do list, take a hot bath, declutter your clothes, write down three things that you are thankful for, clear your head by doing some deep breathing for ten minutes. Do something. You can’t take care of anyone or anything else if you aren’t taking care of yourself. Don’t get me wrong, I have been blessed with so much, but if you read my last post, sometimes I run myself down to E and need to recharge. Don’t you?

With all that I’ve just said above, here’s to being 29 and going for it! 

Cheers, Liza

p.s. I hope I can take my own advice this year – I should probs bookmark this post

p.s.s. I hope you found this post relatable! Do you have any other takeaways from your twenties? Add to my list with a comment below!

p.p.s.s. The next post will be centered around statement earrings and a great promo for you!

The YES Girl

The YES Girl

Sometimes life throws you a curveball (or two, or three), am I right? It’s easy to get stuck in a rut, to hit the pause button on living your best life because you’ve become complacent, you’ve settled into your routine, because taking a risk, taking “the road less traveled” seems too much, too scary. Over the past couple of months, due to some pretty crazy circumstances, I felt like I became a passive participant in my own life. I had to tell myself, quite frequently, just make it through this month, this week, today. Then a few weeks later, I would have to start that same hamster wheel of words again. It’s stressful, and frankly disheartening to think that what you’re doing isn’t enough for yourself.

Top (here), Sunnies (here), Earrings (similar here and here), Bracelets (here), Purse (similar here), Jeans (here), Shoes (here)

Recently I came across this quote from Beau Taplin, The Yes Man

“I am learning to say Yes, to be daring and spontaneous, to hurl myself into people and places and moments without hesitation or second-guessing myself – to challenge my anxieties, to confront my fears, and trust unwaveringly in chance and fate to lead me to where I am supposed to be”

And I thought to myself, “Am I a YES girl?” And the answer was a shaky meh, not so much.

Kate Winslet’s character, Iris, in The Holiday, said it best when she said, “You’re supposed to be the leading lady of your own life, for God’s sake!”

Soooo… I’m taking a leap of faith, moving to a new city next month (Houston bloggers, where you at?!), and hopefully headed down a different career path. Am I scared? Yes. But I am more scared of staying in my safe little bubble. So, I ask myself again, am I a YES girl? Not yet, but I’m working on it.

If you are feeling or have ever felt like I have, I hope you find some solace in knowing you aren’t alone. Want to make a change, want to take a chance on yourself? Start by saying, “Yes“.

Xoxo, Liza